Dance to your own rhythm...

image Emma-peneder @unsplash

image Emma-peneder @unsplash

Right now we live in times that have us constantly looking outside of ourselves, with so much advice on the right thing to do, the right way to live, and even the right things to wear, I could go on here but I’m sure you get my drift. 

Don’t get me wrong its great there’s so much information out there and some good advice and help for people. But what this also triggers is a feeling in many people that they are not good enough! A feeling that they are unable to live up to the hashtag world we live in, or they feel too stressed or busy with life to be doing ‘the right thing’.

These feelings trigger disconnection. Whilst its good to be inspired it’s also good to feel grounded and reconnect to your own rhythms, to come back to yourself and remember ultimately no matter how unsure we think we feel, the best guidance exists within us, it’s the disconnection that’s making us believe that it doesn’t. 

The best way to access this guidance and connection is to get back in touch with your own rhythm, I like to call it the inner dance with yourself. 

The key to getting back to yourself is realising we are all different, our rhythms will differ and this is a good thing even though we are often told we should be a certain way. It's recognising that if yours is much slower or less glossy than another person that’s fine because it's yours. 

We have to begin with owning our own rhythm and knowing that it’s there to serve us and to help us connect better with ourselves. Once we have done that a shift happens, we move from a space of feeling that we are not enough to an 'i am enough' space. We start to feel better, more connected, and this, in turn, allows us to achieve the things we want to do more easily no matter how small they are. 

Knowing our own rhythm guides us to know when we need to rest or when we are ready to take on the world. 

As someone who has lived with chronic illness I know I’ve tried to fight against my own personal rhythm, to compare myself to the outside and feel disappointed that I wasn’t keeping up with the outside world. This led to a state of unhappiness, discord, and disconnection. Taking my power back and going within myself making my own music rediscovering my rhythm changed my life, because I began to work with myself and realised I didn’t need to be the same as the things I felt I had to be or that I was failing at life because I couldn’t keep up with it. I could simply be me and work with my rhythm. Also, the realisation that chronic illness or not, the people around me were feeling disconnection in their own way and waking up to the fact that this was a life problem liberated me. It's very easy to get caught up in the stories you tell yourself that the outside has it so much better. 

So my suggestion to anyone reading this and resonating with this, get back to yourself, get honest about what you want and how you want to feel and find that inner rhythm again and watch the things in your life shine and flow better. It doesn’t mean you won't disconnect sometimes, after all, we’re only human and the outside allure will always draw us in, but the more you connect with your own rhythm you’ll remember it and be able to reconnect back to it.  

A few questions to ask yourself….

Are you dancing to your own rhythm?

Are you feeling disconnected and not enough when looking at the outside world?

If so make it your mission to dance your way back to yourself whatever that looks like to you. 

All my love

Hannah X