Less than ideal ...

You can be the most successful, happy person ( by each of our definitions) and have bad day or week. Of course everyone defines bad differently, so let’s say a less than ideal one. When this happens it comes down to how we look at it and perceive it, and this impacts how we deal with it.

The truth is, it depends if it feels personal or is something we feel very sensitive too, then it will hit differently too.

Then on a bigger scale how regulated your nervous system is will also makes a difference.

Here’s the thing we can be dialled into this idea that if we do all the right things, and we can keep things going in a straight line that we will be perfect. I’ve definitely got caught up in this before, obsessing how I could get everything right and I could in a way avoid a less than ideal day or situation etc.

It can feel safe in this space and way of thinking if you are wired this way.

Obviously, this didn’t work for me, and being a highly sensitive person and someone who’s had to work on nervous system regulation, I tend to feel things hard especially more personal ones.

I soon realised that my bypassing and trying to get everything perfect was feeding un healthy patterns and habits. I also recognised they were coping strategies that felt safe for me, so expressed kindness onto myself.

I had to rewire my brain with the idea that we are cyclic and that life is up and down with different rhythms, less than ideal things happens and things don’t always go right and all of this is ok. Learning to find a level safety here was key and thats not to say you’re looking at this negativity your doing something wrong, its learning to lean into the ups and downs of life.

Recognising and regulating my nervous system was the key, rewiring and rewriting the stories around dealing with tougher times and how this looked.

Recognising that even in business’s and the financial markets they have rebirth and death cycles, just like nature too, its around us everywhere.

Then on a smaller scale women who experience a period cycle, this goes through different stages.

Yet we’ve tried to set life up to avoid this and in reality it’s not possible.

Figuring out your cycles and own rhythm is a great place to start, recognising this changes really helps too. Checking with yourself regularly with where you are at helps you get clear.

I found myself in the past if I was having a tougher week, falling down a hole or looping that it was never going to return to be ok.

Shifting your perception here will help things of course shift and change, this was how I started reminding myself. Leaning into the idea that some times those tougher times, are creating space for new things to come and that old stuff is dying off. But also remembering that it’s ok to feel annoyed at tougher times and to express this, this has really helped me, our emotions are the best feed back we have. Reminding myself the mantra that solutions can be found to problems even if it takes time, has really helped me.

Making sure self care is priority even if you're only managing the little things, it all helps.

The big thing is, knowing that you can come back after a bad day or tough week and this is simply what a successful person is doing. It’s a perceived notion they don’t struggle, it’s not that they don’t have to deal with the rubbish or even the big failures, it’s that they know they will get back on top of things.

Let this be the reminder, that less than ideal days or periods of time are temporary in a word and this isn’t to say horrible things don’t happen that feel soul hurting because they do sometimes.

Embrace you're cycles and learn to dance to your own rhythm, and knowing that life has it cycles too is one of the keys.

Learn to regulate that nervous system and know sometimes we won’t always have control, and that unexpected things happen and thats ok too.

I’d love to hear how you approach less than ideal days or periods of time.

Do you embrace you're cycles and rhythms?

Share with me here.

All my love

Hannah X