The full body "Yes" ...

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Learning to trust the feeling of a full body “yes” in our life is easier said than done.

We can get so used to the space of confusion or not trusting something because it feels like something we shouldn’t be doing. We end up saying to “yes” to things we don’t even want or too things that don’t even feel right because we think we have too. This plays further into our unregulated nervous systems and we end up getting used to feeling this way as if it’s normal.

Now of course let’s be real sometimes in life there are things we have to do occasionally whether it’s a yes or no, I’m not referring to these things and it wouldn’t be right not to acknowledge this and by pass this.

Back to that full body yes, you may be thinking I never feel that or I always feel a bit confused. This is because the “yes” can feel so different than what you think you should be doing or want and that we are so conditioned to ignore this and not go against the gain. Obviously sometimes the full body yes can feel scary too because it may involve change or us having to do things differently that we struggle with the idea of it even though deep down we know it’s the right thing to do.

The thing is that deep we know is where we need to focus, the key is getting yourself to start to feel safe in your body and nervous system with the “yes”.

Finding your way to lean into the “yes” is the key as we all operate differently, some people really can jump right in and other people have to lean and take a bit more time.

When we realise it’s ok to operate differently and react differently rather than thinking there’s something wrong with you or that we need to be more like that other person who jumps right in, we have to take our power back. There’s no one size fits all to any of this and learning your rhythm and process is the key to success here.

We have to slow down and listen to the “yes”, and often we struggle to recognise the “yes” because life is so busy and we are caught up in it.

We have to create the space to listen and this allows us clarity and a change to feel, of course feeling our feelings can be a lot so it’s understandable why we hide from them. Plus we have been taught to trust the outside world more than ourselves. We have to start building that trust and getting it to feel good in our nervous system and body to trust ourselves. This doesn’t mean we don’t make mistakes or the wrong decision, its learning that’s part of life and we can still trust ourselves despite this. Its a practise that the more we do it the better we become at it, this is when we can start to feel the thing we want to say “yes” to and trust it.

None of this is a one time thing its a practise and process and something we have to lean into and evolve with.

What do you want to say “yes” to in your life?

This is your invitation to start now, and if it feels scary take your time and build up to it, don’t overwhelm yourself.

The more you do the more you start aligning with the real “yes” in your life that feel good, rather than the “no’s” and the confusion, your life will shift towards you being able to know and feel that “yes” in your body much quicker and with clarity and trust.

Does this feel easy or are you feeling the confusion or fear around it ?

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

All my love

Hannah X