The Inner Critic - Friend or Foe

We all harbour an inner critic, whose voice can vary in intensity. It tends to emerge at precisely the moments when we least need it, entangling us in our own thoughts. Over the course of our lives, our relationship with this inner critic develops, shaped by a myriad of experiences. There are instances where we may find ourselves overwhelmed or propelled by its influence. Yet, one thing remains certain: it often traps us in a cycle of self-doubt rather than propelling us forward in a harmonious manner.

Let me clarify: I acknowledge that some individuals, driven by their inner critic, have accomplished remarkable feats. However, the underlying energy driving this can lead to burnout or disruptions in our nervous system, making it unsustainable in the long run.

The inner critic itself isn't entirely negative; it can provide constructive feedback, nudging us to refine our approach. However, when it dominates our thoughts, it becomes problematic. We must strike a balance; neither being relentlessly positive nor excessively critical is beneficial. It's about understanding our own emotional patterns and finding equilibrium.

Understanding your personal narrative with your inner critic is pivotal; it allows you to cultivate a more compassionate relationship with it. When it surfaces, acknowledge its presence, assess its relevance, filter the information it provides, and then let it fade into the background.

Yet, this process isn't straightforward, particularly in a world inundated with criticism and comparison, exacerbated by the influence of social media. It becomes an internal struggle, perpetuating feelings of inadequacy and scarcity mentality.

In this fast-paced environment, it's crucial to consciously choose our own path. Attempting to keep up with external expectations only leads to losing oneself. Embrace the uniqueness of your journey, recognising that it will evolve over time.

So, how do we meet our inner critic without judgement and frustration?

Firstly, reflect on its origins and the circumstances surrounding its emergence. Consider how your current relationship with it manifests in your body and nervous system.

Then, rewrite the narrative. This isn't a one-time endeavour; it's a gradual process aimed at fostering a healthier dynamic with your inner critic.

Approach it with compassion, acknowledging its presence without allowing it to dictate your actions. Understand its motivations, but assertively steer the course of your thoughts.

In essence, this journey involves untangling old patterns and fostering a new, more supportive relationship with your inner critic. While it might require some time and effort, like any deeply ingrained process, we have to untangle it. It's important to remember that perfection isn't the goal here.

I’d love to hear from you.

What’s your relationship with your inner critic?

Is it a healthy one?

How do you navigate your inner critic?

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All my love

Hannah X

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